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The Modesty of a woman – Segulah for all the Yeshuot

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on I don’t know how to explain it, but I have many struggles in life: it’s hard for me to get pregnant, there are problems with my husband, problems with livelihood, in short it’s not easy for me. What mitzvah can I undertake, what can I strengthen myself, in order to be saved in all areas?. ANSWER I understand your situation very well, and I hope that little by little everything will work out (and when there is epic salvation in one of the areas you mentioned, the others in G-d will also follow him[1]). And according to what you have proposed to look for in a way to become stronger in observance of Torah and mitzvot, blessed be you, this is really the right step[2]. Modesty – a wonderful virtue in every respect And on your question “what to strengthen”: Here is in general “a heart that knows its bitterness”[3], that everyone knows herself so that she can look for what she needs to improve. But since your question follows many troubles of various kinds, let me suggest a direction for reinforcement: And it is the subject of modesty. Because, behold, the disadvantage of modesty is the source of all trouble and distress, because it drives away the Divine presence from us as it is written in the Torah, [4], “He shall not see anything naked in you, G-d distances himself from us, and as they demanded in Gmarah sotah[5]. And when the Divine presence departs from us, there is no protection, God forbid, from trouble. And it is quoted in the name of the Chofetz Chaim, za”l[6]: “That all influences and successes materially, spiritually and livelihood are due to modesty.” Indeed, it has already been said in the Holy Zohar[7] about a woman who behaves very modestly “דבעלה מתברך בכלא בברכאן דלעילא בברכאן דלתתא בעותרא בבנין בבני בנין” (meaning that even her husband is blessed with all the blessings of everyone. Indeed, according to the secret, all matters of modesty actually belong to the ‘sifirat hyisod’, which is the conduit through which all influences pass, and if the pipe is “broken” (by a lack of modesty) there can be a disadvantage in all areas of life, livelihood, health, etc. Here are some examples of things for which modesty is a wonderful “virtue”:: Modesty as a virtue to bring children Rabbeinu Moshe Elsheich wrote, “according to most of the modesty of a woman, she will have sons.” And so wrote the ‘klay yakar’ [9] and explains that this is what the angels meant when they asked Abraham, “were is Sarah, your wife,” and he answered, “Here in the tent” she will therefore have the privilege of giving birth to Isaac our forefather, even though she was barren. Modesty as a virtue against a miscarriage. Rabbeinu Bhayei wrote[10]: “And this woman (i.e., the modesty woman), in the reward of her modesty, does not miscarriage.” [11]. Modesty as a virtue for good boys. Here the spiritual state of the sons and daughters depends directly on the holiness (matters of modesty) of the parents [12]. And we know the Talmud’s words[13] about Kimchit, because she was very modest (whose hair was never seen by the walls of the house), she was privileged to have all her sons as high priests. And we extended it elsewhere. And Meran Rabbeinu Ovadia Yosef z”l in his book Maor Yisrael [14] cites as a source for this also the words of the Sages[15]about the verse[16] “Your wife is like a fertile vine at the back of your house, your sons as olive trees around your table,” which the Sages demanded that if your wife is “at the back of your house,” that is, modestly, then your sons will be “olive planters” with Biblical Mishnah and Talmudic owners whose oil illuminates the world. . And Maran Rabbeinu Ovadia Yosef z”l, spoke about it as prodding, and this is what he said [17]: “Every woman who wants her sons to be righteous should behave modestly,” writes the Zohar, etc. How can a man not believe in the words of our sages that he will have righteous sons? How much the parents try with their sons to become Torah scholars, and nothing comes of them, with all their efforts, they flee the yeshiva and take fruitful roots and make their lives miserable. And they are to blame! If they behaved modestly in their homes, the boys would also follow in their footsteps, become righteous and upright, follow the ways of the Torah.” Modesty as a virtue for children’s health And in the mentioned in the words of the Sages[18] ” if a woman is weaver in the market and speaks to every person and sets her eyes on every person – [after all] she causes herself evil and commits herself and her sons, from here they said: A woman causes herself and her sons to be cripple, by going once outside, once in the streets (she causes herself that her sons are cripple. Modesty as a virtue that will not be poor at home The Holy Zohar[19] says: [Translation] – And a woman who pulls out her hair for beautify, causes poverty to the home, and later in the Zohar Commandments he explains that this is not only about hair, but also about other disadvantages of modesty[20]. The Zohar also lists some many evil troubles regarding the revelation of the hair [21]. Modesty as a virtue for women to overcome the urge It is quoted in the name of the Chazon Ish, z”l, that “the weapon of women to defeat the evil inclination is modesty clothing”[22], and the ‘Chazon Ish’ added that this should be published. Modesty as a virtue against the evil eye It is written in the Book of Virtues (one of the first Italians – Rabbeinu Yechiel Yekutiel, the late physician)[23] that modesty protects against the evil eye. (And indeed it is known that Joseph justified his whole interest in preserving the basic sanctity, which is the matter of modesty, and Joseph gained the righteous that he and all his descendants after him did not rule over them at all by the evil eye [24]). Modesty as a virtue to be saved from death , In the Gemrah [25] it is mentioned that King David told Saul that he was saved from death because “the modesty that was in you – it helped you.” Well, the Gaon Rabbi Yehonatan Eibeschitz z”l wrote in the book ‘yearot devash’ [26] that a woman who maintains modesty well, causes her to save her household from the angel of death. And in the Book of ‘shulchan htahor’ [27] wrote: “And a woman that is careful in modestly, even if he is sentenced to death, G-d forbid, they also spare him and annul his sentence, etc. And when he behaves modestly, the pests spare him [28] and he is blinded from heaven certainly spared him, and there is no permission for those who categorize him.” Other virtues of modesty: Virtue to be saved from sorcerers [29]. Virtue for wisdom [30]. A virtue for a good ‘shiduch’, and the modesty of the mother is also a virtue for a decentpairing of her daughter.[31]. If she takes care not to see a single hair outside her handkerchief even when she is at home, she is a virtue forpeace at home [32]. Modesty Well, if we see that many troubles are overcoming you, this is the advice of the counselor, to become stronger in the degree of modesty. And of course for every woman it is in a different way, for example: There are women who did not grow up in a religious home and therefore they go out with sleeveless clothes, in such a way that their arms are not covered – and for these women, first of all, they need to be strengthened to wear clothes that do not reveal what is forbidden by halacha. And there are women who are already more frum, and they are well covered, but the clothes are, unfortunately, tight or in an eye-catching style – and this too is a disadvantage of modesty, and for this we must make an effort to improve and advance. And there are married women who are really modest, but make the mistake of allowing themselvesa foreign wig, and how much our great rabbi, Rabbi Ovadia Yosef z”l, warned about the fact that there is no permit for this according to halacha, and here is that for these women there is no doubt that changing from a wig to a scarf is a very important step and gives satisfaction to Hashem (and an entire book has already been published with facts about women who changed from wig to a scarf and saw Salvation in all areas). And we will conclude with the words of Maran Rabbeinu Ovadia z”l in his book Yabi’a omer [33] that he wrote his eternal blessing (and we have already brought elsewhere that it is good for women who make sure to cover their heads with a handkerchief properly, to read this blessing close to Maran’s grave, in order to awaken upon themselves the power of this wonderful blessing) and so he wrote: “Every woman who accepts it must keep to do as our rabbis say, who strictly forbade it, and to go out only with a hat or scarf coveringןher entire head, will be blessed with all the blessings in the Torah, and with a good livelihood and nachat from her sons in the Torah and pure fear of God, teachers of instructions in Israel.” And may it be that thanks to modesty you will be able to immediately see God’s salvation in all the things you have mentioned, and may you also witness the salvation of the entire nation of Israel, welcoming our righteous Messiah with joy without disgrace, soon in our day Amen.

Question

I don’t know how to explain it, but I have many struggles in life: it’s hard for me to get pregnant, there are problems with my husband, problems with livelihood, in short it’s not easy for me. What mitzvah can I undertake, what can I strengthen myself, in order to be saved in all areas?.

ANSWER

I understand your situation very well, and I hope that little by little everything will work out (and when there is epic salvation in one of the areas you mentioned, the others in G-d will also follow him[1]). And according to what you have proposed to look for in a way to become stronger in observance of Torah and mitzvot, blessed be you, this is really the right step[2].

Modesty – a wonderful virtue in every respect

And on your question “what to strengthen”: Here is in general “a heart that knows its bitterness”[3], that everyone knows herself so that she can look for what she needs to improve. But since your question follows many troubles of various kinds, let me suggest a direction for reinforcement: And it is the subject of modesty. Because, behold, the disadvantage of modesty is the source of all trouble and distress, because it drives away the Divine presence from us as it is written in the Torah, [4], “He shall not see anything naked in you, G-d distances himself from us, and as they demanded in Gmarah sotah[5]. And when the Divine presence departs from us, there is no protection, God forbid, from trouble.

And it is quoted in the name of the Chofetz Chaim, za”l[6]: “That all influences and successes materially, spiritually and livelihood are due to modesty.”

Indeed, it has already been said in the Holy Zohar[7] about a woman who behaves very modestly “דבעלה מתברך בכלא בברכאן דלעילא בברכאן דלתתא בעותרא בבנין בבני בנין” (meaning that even her husband is blessed with all the blessings of everyone.

Indeed, according to the secret, all matters of modesty actually belong to the ‘sifirat hyisod’, which is the conduit through which all influences pass, and if the pipe is “broken” (by a lack of modesty) there can be a disadvantage in all areas of life, livelihood, health, etc.

Here are some examples of things for which modesty is a wonderful “virtue”::

Modesty as a virtue to bring children

Rabbeinu Moshe Elsheich wrote, “according to most of the modesty of a woman, she will have sons.” And so wrote the ‘klay yakar’ [9] and explains that this is what the angels meant when they asked Abraham, “were is Sarah, your wife,” and he answered, “Here in the tent” she will therefore have the privilege of giving birth to Isaac our forefather, even though she was barren.

Modesty as a virtue against a miscarriage.

Rabbeinu Bhayei wrote[10]: “And this woman (i.e., the modesty woman), in the reward of her modesty, does not miscarriage.” [11].

Modesty as a virtue for good boys.

Here the spiritual state of the sons and daughters depends directly on the holiness (matters of modesty) of the parents [12]. And we know the Talmud’s words[13] about Kimchit, because she was very modest (whose hair was never seen by the walls of the house), she was privileged to have all her sons as high priests. And we extended it elsewhere. And Meran Rabbeinu Ovadia Yosef z”l in his book Maor Yisrael [14] cites as a source for this also the words of the Sages[15]about the verse[16] “Your wife is like a fertile vine at the back of your house, your sons as olive trees around your table,” which the Sages demanded that if your wife is “at the back of your house,” that is, modestly, then your sons will be “olive planters” with Biblical Mishnah and Talmudic owners whose oil illuminates the world.

And Maran Rabbeinu Ovadia Yosef z”l, spoke about it as prodding, and this is what he said [17]:

“Every woman who wants her sons to be righteous should behave modestly,” writes the Zohar, etc. How can a man not believe in the words of our sages that he will have righteous sons? How much the parents try with their sons to become Torah scholars, and nothing comes of them, with all their efforts, they flee the yeshiva and take fruitful roots and make their lives miserable. And they are to blame! If they behaved modestly in their homes, the boys would also follow in their footsteps, become righteous and upright, follow the ways of the Torah.”

Modesty as a virtue for children’s health

And in the mentioned in the words of the Sages[18] ” if a woman is weaver in the market and speaks to every person and sets her eyes on every person – [after all] she causes herself evil and commits herself and her sons, from here they said: A woman causes herself and her sons to be cripple, by going once outside, once in the streets (she causes herself that her sons are cripple.

Modesty as a virtue that will not be poor at home

The Holy Zohar[19] says: [Translation] – And a woman who pulls out her hair for beautify, causes poverty to the home, and later in the Zohar Commandments he explains that this is not only about hair, but also about other disadvantages of modesty[20]. The Zohar also lists some many evil troubles regarding the revelation of the hair [21].

Modesty as a virtue for women to overcome the urge

It is quoted in the name of the Chazon Ish, z”l, that “the weapon of women to defeat the evil inclination is modesty clothing“[22], and the ‘Chazon Ish’ added that this should be published.

Modesty as a virtue against the evil eye

It is written in the Book of Virtues (one of the first Italians – Rabbeinu Yechiel Yekutiel, the late physician)[23] that modesty protects against the evil eye. (And indeed it is known that Joseph justified his whole interest in preserving the basic sanctity, which is the matter of modesty, and Joseph gained the righteous that he and all his descendants after him did not rule over them at all by the evil eye [24]).

Modesty as a virtue to be saved from death

, In the Gemrah [25] it is mentioned that King David told Saul that he was saved from death because “the modesty that was in you – it helped you.” Well, the Gaon Rabbi Yehonatan Eibeschitz z”l wrote in the book ‘yearot devash’ [26] that a woman who maintains modesty well, causes her to save her household from the angel of death. And in the Book of ‘shulchan htahor’ [27] wrote: “And a woman that is careful in modestly, even if he is sentenced to death, G-d forbid, they also spare him and annul his sentence, etc. And when he behaves modestly, the pests spare him [28] and he is blinded from heaven certainly spared him, and there is no permission for those who categorize him.”

Other virtues of modesty:

Virtue to be saved from sorcerers [29].
Virtue for wisdom [30].
A virtue for a good ‘shiduch’, and the modesty of the mother is also a virtue for a decentpairing of her daughter.[31].
If she takes care not to see a single hair outside her handkerchief even when she is at home, she is a virtue forpeace at home [32].

Modesty

Well, if we see that many troubles are overcoming you, this is the advice of the counselor, to become stronger in the degree of modesty. And of course for every woman it is in a different way, for example:

There are women who did not grow up in a religious home and therefore they go out with sleeveless clothes, in such a way that their arms are not covered – and for these women, first of all, they need to be strengthened to wear clothes that do not reveal what is forbidden by halacha.
And there are women who are already more frum, and they are well covered, but the clothes are, unfortunately, tight or in an eye-catching style – and this too is a disadvantage of modesty, and for this we must make an effort to improve and advance.
And there are married women who are really modest, but make the mistake of allowing themselvesa foreign wig, and how much our great rabbi, Rabbi Ovadia Yosef z”l, warned about the fact that there is no permit for this according to halacha, and here is that for these women there is no doubt that changing from a wig to a scarf is a very important step and gives satisfaction to Hashem (and an entire book has already been published with facts about women who changed from wig to a scarf and saw Salvation in all areas).

And we will conclude with the words of Maran Rabbeinu Ovadia z”l in his book Yabi’a omer [33] that he wrote his eternal blessing (and we have already brought elsewhere that it is good for women who make sure to cover their heads with a handkerchief properly, to read this blessing close to Maran’s grave, in order to awaken upon themselves the power of this wonderful blessing) and so he wrote:

“Every woman who accepts it must keep to do as our rabbis say, who strictly forbade it, and to go out only with a hat or scarf coveringןher entire head, will be blessed with all the blessings in the Torah, and with a good livelihood and nachat from her sons in the Torah and pure fear of God, teachers of instructions in Israel.”

And may it be that thanks to modesty you will be able to immediately see God’s salvation in all the things you have mentioned, and may you also witness the salvation of the entire nation of Israel, welcoming our righteous Messiah with joy without disgrace, soon in our day Amen.