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Segulot (mystical virtues) for finding a shiduch

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on: Regarding finding my shiduch, I spend a lot of time trying to practice the segulot – like of respecting my parents, what else can I do and how long will it take me to receive my salvation, thank you very much.

: Hello and greetings, first of all, I wish you that before I finish answering this question, it will no longer be necessary because you will find your husband / wife from the root of your soul at a good time and with good luck. The segulah (mystical virtue) of honoring father and mother as a segulah for finding a match Blessed are you that you strive to honor your parents, this is indeed a wonderful segulah for finding a match as the “Chafetz Chaim” Zts”l said, because the angel who was created from the mitzvah of honoring parents, knows how to recommend honesty on the subject of matches more than angels who are created from other Mitzvot. (And I think it should be added that this is because even the one who isn’t married – will be privileged to be a father or mother whose children will respect him). However, there is a tradition in the family of the Tzaddik, Rabbi Moshe Mendel Zatzuk’l, that for this you need to honor your parents “with dedication”, that is, even in ways that are very difficult, to honor in an unusual way, and when you do so this angel is created and so in this mitzvah one should invest all his strength. And in the book “Acharecha Binyamin” (p. 278) it is mentioned in the name of Rabbi Binyamin Batsri Zetza’l, that also learning the laws of honoring a father and mother – it is a segulah for finding a shiduch. The main thing is to pray And of course there are other segulot, but first of all, you should know that before looking for segulot and advice for a shiduch or any other topic, the main thing is always prayer, as Chazal said in gemarah Berachot (page 32 b): “Rabbi Chama the son of Rabbi Chanina said: if a man saw A person who prayed and was not answered, should come back and pray, as it is said,’ קוה אל ה’ חזק ויאמץ לבך וקוה אל ה’ (hope to hashem, and strengthen your heart, and hope again to God). A prayer from the bottom of the heart, with tears, is good because the gates of tears have not been locked (Berachot page 32 b). The segulot are only in terms of an additional “push”, but not the main thing, the main thing is to look about your actions and pray from the bottom of the heart. (And don’t rely only on the charity funds to pray for you, you have to pray on your own). And Teshuvah and prayer and charity pass the evil of the decree. The degree of humility: not to be too picky And it is very important not to look for things that are not necessary in a match, especially in the term of physicality, the main thing your partner to be is spiritual, and that it not be “rejected” externally, and beyond that one should not look for other good things, and one must compromise and behave humbly. See the book “Karyana Deigarta” (by the Kehilot Ya’akov Kanyevski ztze’l) Part 2 chapter 17. And Chazal have already hinted in their saying “Nahit Darga Nasiv Itata” (“lower yourself and then you will marry a woman” – gemarah Yavamot page 63 A) that precisely through humility, a person can achieve his suitable pairing [and this is apart from the fact that the degree of humility has the power find a match (=Rabbi Meir Shalom of Kalishin). And now, I will list the various segulot to help find a shiduch. This is a list of Segulot who wrote at the books: To say psalms ch. 121 (Esa Einai) every day with intention at the end of ‘tefilat h’amidah’ before he moves his feet, every tefilah of the day shacharit minchah arvit, and then hashem shows his real Shiduch that people offer to him, ( Rama mepano). And also other can do it for him (Harav Elyashiv). Bircat Halevana (bless of the moon) at a Minyan and with intention (Rabbi Chaim Palaji), and also to say with intention the pasuk “מאין יבוא עזרי עזרי מעם ה’ עושה שמים וארץ”, that he will find a wife, or will say the name of the man/woman that need Shiduch. And he also wrote to read the korbanot of the neseim (Bamidbar chapter 7,1-86) To read 40 days – Shir Hashirim (Geza Yishai). To read Shirat Hayam with joy (Likutim Mipardes) To keep the rules of modesty (Veshamru La’asut) To answer Amen with intention (Yalkut Avraham) Some have a custom that the bride, after her wedding, cuts a piece of cloth from her ‘Hinoma’, and gives it to the girls who need a Shiduch, and they wrap this cloth around their finger, as a Segula for a Shiduch (Nohag Be’chochma). Lighting a candle 40 days and 40 nights every day (but not at Shabbat) Iiluy Nishmat Rabbi Matya Ben Charash (Or Pney Chaim). Also known the famous Segula of 18 candles Iiluy Nishmat Rabbi Matya Ben Charash, but it’s good for every deliverance, and the 40 days is especially for a Shiduch. The Mitzva of Shiluch Haken (mdresh Tanchuma – Ki tetzeh) To say these chapters of Tehilim every day: 32,38,70,71,124 (Ben Ish Chai and Raphael Hamalach) And some say, to say these chapters: 31,32,70,72,124 for 40 days and after that pray about the Shiduch (Rabbi kaduri) and also chapter 68 (Sadigura Rabbe) and if we want to connect all of them: 31,32,38,68,70,71,72,124 and pray after that about the Shiduch Bizchut all the Pesukim and the Holy names of them. Tehilim chapters: 8,15 (Rabbi Ischak Yosef) Chapter 25 of Mesilat Yesharim (Rabbi Yaakov Ades) and it’s good also for Shalom Bait and for evreything for your family. And Rabbi Chaim Kanyevski wrote: A. Beware from Lashon Hara, B. to talk always nice and not to be angry. C. to learn Mesechet Kidushin or Ketubot, D. when eating bread to do Zemun and to be the Mazamen. And the Rabanit Kanyevski said to learn every day 2 Halachot of Lashon Hara. If you are a girl – buy Tallit for your future Chatan, and keep the Talit at your closet. To pray at Amuka- at the grave of Rabbi Yonatan Ben Uziel, And Rabbi Ovadia Yosef said that one time is not enough, one should go there at list 2 or 3 times. Segula from the Rabbi Yaakov Edelshtein for a girl that wants a Shiduch, that will decide that after she will get married she will set aside at her home one bed for guests. To read all the Tehilim without stopping, it good to Shiduch, Children, and Parnasa (Rabbi Yeshyaho Pinto) To Help with his masser money for Talmiday Chachamim (Midrash Raba) To light the candle of Havdala (Rabbi Yitschak Vider) Segula before Chag Sukkot: to build the Sukka, and speacly to build for a Talmid Chaham (Rabbi Yischak Yosef) A Segula to do on Seder night: whoever needs a Shiduch, he should pour into the sink the wine in the bowl into which the wine was poured when the “Dam Tsefardea Kinim…. Is said” (Rabanit Margalit Yosef) And another Segula that can be done on Passover: one of the members of the household will place on chal hamoed the Zeroah that was placed on the table for the Seder night in the right pocket of the boys suit without his knowledge, and when he puts on his suit he will discover the Zeroah in his pocket, he is guaranteed that until the next Passover He will be married (Rabbi Eliyahu Lupian) And Some say (Osri Lagefen) that the Segula is that at the day after the Seder, the person who needs a shiduch will eat the Zeroah. Segula for chag Shavuhot: to read Shir Hashirim from a scroll and also to read the Shtar Hatnaim (“The Charter of the Terms”_ between Hashem and the People of Israel authored by Rabbi Israel Negara (Sefer Likoti Yam Hachochma). And may the Almighty remove from you all the laws and regulations, and you will soon be able to find a decent marriage from the root of your soul, Amen Sela.

Question:

Regarding finding my shiduch, I spend a lot of time trying to practice the segulot – like of respecting my parents, what else can I do and how long will it take me to receive my salvation, thank you very much.

Answer:

Hello and greetings, first of all, I wish you that before I finish answering this question, it will no longer be necessary because you will find your husband / wife from the root of your soul at a good time and with good luck.

The segulah (mystical virtue) of honoring father and mother as a segulah for finding a match

Blessed are you that you strive to honor your parents, this is indeed a wonderful segulah for finding a match as the “Chafetz Chaim” Zts”l said, because the angel who was created from the mitzvah of honoring parents, knows how to recommend honesty on the subject of matches more than angels who are created from other Mitzvot. (And I think it should be added that this is because even the one who isn’t married – will be privileged to be a father or mother whose children will respect him). However, there is a tradition in the family of the Tzaddik, Rabbi Moshe Mendel Zatzuk’l, that for this you need to honor your parents “with dedication”, that is, even in ways that are very difficult, to honor in an unusual way, and when you do so this angel is created and so in this mitzvah one should invest all his strength. And in the book “Acharecha Binyamin” (p. 278) it is mentioned in the name of Rabbi Binyamin Batsri Zetza’l, that also learning the laws of honoring a father and mother – it is a segulah for finding a shiduch.

The main thing is to pray

And of course there are other segulot, but first of all, you should know that before looking for segulot and advice for a shiduch or any other topic, the main thing is always prayer, as Chazal said in gemarah Berachot (page 32 b): “Rabbi Chama the son of Rabbi Chanina said: if a man saw A person who prayed and was not answered, should come back and pray, as it is said,’ קוה אל ה’ חזק ויאמץ לבך וקוה אל ה’ (hope to hashem, and strengthen your heart, and hope again to God). A prayer from the bottom of the heart, with tears, is good because the gates of tears have not been locked (Berachot page 32 b). The segulot are only in terms of an additional “push”, but not the main thing, the main thing is to look about your actions and pray from the bottom of the heart. (And don’t rely only on the charity funds to pray for you, you have to pray on your own). And Teshuvah and prayer and charity pass the evil of the decree.

The degree of humility: not to be too picky

And it is very important not to look for things that are not necessary in a match, especially in the term of physicality, the main thing your partner to be is spiritual, and that it not be “rejected” externally, and beyond that one should not look for other good things, and one must compromise and behave humbly. See the book “Karyana Deigarta” (by the Kehilot Ya’akov Kanyevski ztze’l) Part 2 chapter 17.

And Chazal have already hinted in their saying “Nahit Darga Nasiv Itata” (“lower yourself and then you will marry a woman” – gemarah Yavamot page 63 A) that precisely through humility, a person can achieve his suitable pairing [and this is apart from the fact that the degree of humility has the power find a match (=Rabbi Meir Shalom of Kalishin).

And now, I will list the various segulot to help find a shiduch.

This is a list of Segulot who wrote at the books:

To say psalms ch. 121 (Esa Einai) every day with intention at the end of ‘tefilat h’amidah’ before he moves his feet, every tefilah of the day shacharit minchah arvit, and then hashem shows his real Shiduch that people offer to him, ( Rama mepano). And also other can do it for him (Harav Elyashiv).
Bircat Halevana (bless of the moon) at a Minyan and with intention (Rabbi Chaim Palaji), and also to say with intention the pasuk “מאין יבוא עזרי עזרי מעם ה’ עושה שמים וארץ”, that he will find a wife, or will say the name of the man/woman that need Shiduch.
And he also wrote to read the korbanot of the neseim (Bamidbar chapter 7,1-86)
To read 40 days – Shir Hashirim (Geza Yishai).
To read Shirat Hayam with joy (Likutim Mipardes)
To keep the rules of modesty (Veshamru La’asut)
To answer Amen with intention (Yalkut Avraham)
Some have a custom that the bride, after her wedding, cuts a piece of cloth from her ‘Hinoma’, and gives it to the girls who need a Shiduch, and they wrap this cloth around their finger, as a Segula for a Shiduch (Nohag Be’chochma).
Lighting a candle 40 days and 40 nights every day (but not at Shabbat) Iiluy Nishmat Rabbi Matya Ben Charash (Or Pney Chaim). Also known the famous Segula of 18 candles Iiluy Nishmat Rabbi Matya Ben Charash, but it’s good for every deliverance, and the 40 days is especially for a Shiduch.
The Mitzva of Shiluch Haken (mdresh Tanchuma – Ki tetzeh)
To say these chapters of Tehilim every day: 32,38,70,71,124 (Ben Ish Chai and Raphael Hamalach) And some say, to say these chapters: 31,32,70,72,124 for 40 days and after that pray about the Shiduch (Rabbi kaduri) and also chapter 68 (Sadigura Rabbe) and if we want to connect all of them: 31,32,38,68,70,71,72,124 and pray after that about the Shiduch Bizchut all the Pesukim and the Holy names of them.
Tehilim chapters: 8,15 (Rabbi Ischak Yosef)
Chapter 25 of Mesilat Yesharim (Rabbi Yaakov Ades) and it’s good also for Shalom Bait and for evreything for your family.
And Rabbi Chaim Kanyevski wrote: A. Beware from Lashon Hara, B. to talk always nice and not to be angry. C. to learn Mesechet Kidushin or Ketubot, D. when eating bread to do Zemun and to be the Mazamen. And the Rabanit Kanyevski said to learn every day 2 Halachot of Lashon Hara.
If you are a girl – buy Tallit for your future Chatan, and keep the Talit at your closet.
To pray at Amuka- at the grave of Rabbi Yonatan Ben Uziel, And Rabbi Ovadia Yosef said that one time is not enough, one should go there at list 2 or 3 times.
Segula from the Rabbi Yaakov Edelshtein for a girl that wants a Shiduch, that will decide that after she will get married she will set aside at her home one bed for guests.
To read all the Tehilim without stopping, it good to Shiduch, Children, and Parnasa (Rabbi Yeshyaho Pinto)
To Help with his masser money for Talmiday Chachamim (Midrash Raba)
To light the candle of Havdala (Rabbi Yitschak Vider)
Segula before Chag Sukkot: to build the Sukka, and speacly to build for a Talmid Chaham (Rabbi Yischak Yosef)
A Segula to do on Seder night: whoever needs a Shiduch, he should pour into the sink the wine in the bowl into which the wine was poured when the “Dam Tsefardea Kinim…. Is said” (Rabanit Margalit Yosef)
And another Segula that can be done on Passover: one of the members of the household will place on chal hamoed the Zeroah that was placed on the table for the Seder night in the right pocket of the boys suit without his knowledge, and when he puts on his suit he will discover the Zeroah in his pocket, he is guaranteed that until the next Passover He will be married (Rabbi Eliyahu Lupian) And Some say (Osri Lagefen) that the Segula is that at the day after the Seder, the person who needs a shiduch will eat the Zeroah.
Segula for chag Shavuhot: to read Shir Hashirim from a scroll and also to read the Shtar Hatnaim (“The Charter of the Terms”_ between Hashem and the People of Israel authored by Rabbi Israel Negara (Sefer Likoti Yam Hachochma).

And may the Almighty remove from you all the laws and regulations, and you will soon be able to find a decent marriage from the root of your soul, Amen Sela.