Question:
Hey I just wanted to reach out basically I really like this girl but I’m stuck on what to do cause she has premarital sex with one of my friends and wanted to know if there is anything you can do about that maybe some type of tshuva I obviously really care cause. I’m reaching out it would mean a lot if you can take your time on this and what do you belive weather I can date her how would it effect our marriage and that type of stuff. thank you
Answer:
You don’t have any inhibitors to marry her, although I understand the sensitivity of the matter, since you write that you like her and you feel love for her, I don’t see it as any inhibitor for a serious relationship even though she was in the past with your close friend.
you may not like the idea that she had a relationship, but everything is from Hashem and because you are now single, and looking for an arranged marriage, you should try to date her, perhaps she is the woman that intended from heaven, just check her ‘midot’ , and you have no fear that this will affect you in marriage – wrongly.
Heartfeltly blesses that in all that you turn you will be educated and succeed
