Regarding hair dyeing for a man—a matter that has greatly troubled me for about two years: My husband is a young man, 31 years old, whose hair has turned gray prematurely. This causes me great aversion and considerable anger toward him, even though I know it is not within his control—to the extent that it is difficult for me to look at him. I wear contact lenses, and at home I go without them so that the white hairs will be less noticeable to me. It also makes me feel that my husband is old and causes me to look at other men. This matter saddens me greatly, and at present the apparent solution is simply to dye his hair. My husband is not someone who beautifies himself, etc., but for the sake of our marriage and shalom bayit, which has been so severely undermined by this issue, may he dye it? Is there a product intended to cover gray hair; is it permitted? It would be a tremendous relief to me if there is room to permit this. Thank you very much.
Although a man should not dye the hair of his head משום “Lo yilbash gever,” since the prohibition includes all forms of beautification, nevertheless, because your husband is a young man of 31 and, in his case, white hair is considered a blemish, removing a blemish is permitted and does not involve “Lo yilbash.” This is because he is not doing so in order to beautify himself, but in order to remove the blemish. This is especially so since the matter involves shalom bayit, for peace is so great that even the Name of Heaven is erased for its sake.
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